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Kinda personal. But do you share a bed or room with your child or children?
I know this question may come off a little personal so if you dont feel comfortable answering then by all means dont answer. But I was just looking to see what other moms do when they share a room with their kids. My daughter has always had her own room, and soon My husband, Me, and My 15 month old daughter will have to share a room at my parents house while we wait for our new place. But we will be at my parents for probably a good 6 months.. But what about sex with my partner? I defiently do NOT feel comfortable doing it in the same room as my child... sleeping or not its just way to weird. I was thinking of a room divider or something, but still I have no idea.. When my daughter was younger and we co-slept I would always lay her down to sleep and then leave and we would do our business else where like the living room or something... but we dont have that option now.. So for the people who share a bed or room with your kids what do you do? or if you have any suggestions it would be greatly appreciated!
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My husband and I have co-slept with our now one year old daughter since birth. We have DEFINITELY not let it get in the way of our marriage. As far as your 15 month old goes, if she is to be in the same room, make her a pallet of blankets on the floor to sleep - that way the activity on the bed will not disturb her. If you aren't comfortable with that, then the only other option is to leave her with your parents and "take a drive." Lol. Remember, that your 15 month old, sleeping or awake, doesn't know the difference (though her being awake can be uncomfortable). I'd say the pallet of blankets is the best idea - just be quiet during the act so you don't wake her. Good luck lol and remember the car if necessary!
My son had his own room since he started to reliably sleep through the night around 3 months. I thought he slept great, but once he learned how to climb out of his crib he refused to sleep period, especially in his room. So, I ended up with a 21 month old sharing our room. He'll be 2 in a couple of weeks and we've decided to keep him in our room as long as we all enjoy it.
You aren't really asking about set up, but we put the crib mattress on the floor near our bed. In this picture, our bed is just out of the frame on the left hand side. http://2.bp.blo…
We are in our own home, though, so intimacy isn't that big of a deal. We have two other bedrooms, 2 offices, and the rest of our house, so we get plenty of privacy. But, where you're all just in one room at your parents' home, you probably don't have that option.
Maybe you could enjoy your bathroom (assuming it's not shared with your parents)? If you have the space in your room you could set up a divider. Heck, even running a sheet or light blanket down part of the room might make you feel better and more comfortable with it. At least that way she's not going to see anything if she wakes up. Another idea could be to have camp outs in the living room once a week (with your parents' cooperation, of course). Turn down the lights, put on a movie, and have you, your hubby, and your little girl "fall asleep" to the movie. After she's asleep you can have some time in the bedroom with out her, then move her back into the room when you're done.
You aren't really asking about set up, but we put the crib mattress on the floor near our bed. In this picture, our bed is just out of the frame on the left hand side. http://2.bp.blo…
We are in our own home, though, so intimacy isn't that big of a deal. We have two other bedrooms, 2 offices, and the rest of our house, so we get plenty of privacy. But, where you're all just in one room at your parents' home, you probably don't have that option.
Maybe you could enjoy your bathroom (assuming it's not shared with your parents)? If you have the space in your room you could set up a divider. Heck, even running a sheet or light blanket down part of the room might make you feel better and more comfortable with it. At least that way she's not going to see anything if she wakes up. Another idea could be to have camp outs in the living room once a week (with your parents' cooperation, of course). Turn down the lights, put on a movie, and have you, your hubby, and your little girl "fall asleep" to the movie. After she's asleep you can have some time in the bedroom with out her, then move her back into the room when you're done.
She's too young to remember if she should hear or see anything. Just make sure she's sleeping first. If she wakes up, don't freak out. Just get up and take care of her like you would any other time. They don't see being naked as odd yet. What you show her to be normal will be normal to her. If you act like it's a huge deal, then she might feel guilty for making you upset. Just go with the flow and don't worry. I am positive she will eventually catch or hear you having sex. Most kids do.
Better for them to think it's a normal part of loving someone than to think it's wrong..which is what she'll end up thinking of you freak out if she sees anything.
Better for them to think it's a normal part of loving someone than to think it's wrong..which is what she'll end up thinking of you freak out if she sees anything.
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