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9 year old and one year old kids sharing room good idea or not?
Hi,
My nine year old daughter sometimes says she is fine with sharing room with her one year old brother but rarely says she wants her own room. I will be happy if they shared room. Obviously nine year old will have her own storage with locks and maybe some curtains which will act like room divider. What do you think is it a good idea or not? Room's length is double the width so it can be easily divided into two rooms with curtain.
Thank you.
My nine year old daughter sometimes says she is fine with sharing room with her one year old brother but rarely says she wants her own room. I will be happy if they shared room. Obviously nine year old will have her own storage with locks and maybe some curtains which will act like room divider. What do you think is it a good idea or not? Room's length is double the width so it can be easily divided into two rooms with curtain.
Thank you.
5 Answers
It will be hard to expect a one year old to respect boundaries. What if she wants to be alone, or do homework, or read in her room and he is playing? You will not be able to expect him to stay on his side of the room and he will more than likely tear down the curtain. Then, if you do move them in together and it doesnt work out, you will be moving your baby again. Also, the baby is only one, and at one, they are just getting around. By the time he is 15 months old, he will be exploring a lot more and testing his boundaries. He needs his own space, where the entire room is available to him (if there is a room for him),and where everything is baby proofed.
As long as your daughter is aware that she will have virtually no privacy and all of her cool stuff will more than likely be played with (and lost or broken) at some point..
My daughter is 2 and her big bro is 6. They don't share a room but she goes for every opportunity she can get to sneak into his room and mess up his legos and books. Sometimes in the middle of the night she'll get up and sneak in for some play time...
It may also disturb your daughter at night because toddlers tend to not sleep well, especially while teething. And their patterns are usually not consistent.
But it can also work out very nicely and will create a great bond between siblings. It's tough to say.
Good luck!
My daughter is 2 and her big bro is 6. They don't share a room but she goes for every opportunity she can get to sneak into his room and mess up his legos and books. Sometimes in the middle of the night she'll get up and sneak in for some play time...
It may also disturb your daughter at night because toddlers tend to not sleep well, especially while teething. And their patterns are usually not consistent.
But it can also work out very nicely and will create a great bond between siblings. It's tough to say.
Good luck!
Not a good idea for so many reasons. To me I don't believe in making children share a room. I think kids need their own space that is their own in the home to retreat to or relax without younger siblings around.
* Age gap of 8 years and a 1 year old is not going to understand about not walking through a curtain to sisters side and respecting her privacy
* Gender difference may not matter now, but in a couple years when your daughter is 11 or 12 it will and she is going to want complete privacy from her little brother with changes she will be going through.
* You need to check your state/local laws. There are laws on this type of thing and age limits on what is appropriate or not for different genders sharing a bedroom as siblings based on age differences. If it is not legal in your state and someone finds out and reports you then you could be in trouble with CPS down your back.
Also, she may say she's fine with it because she feels pushed into doing it and doesn't know how to say she doesn't want to. If you have the space to give each child their own room I would do that because in the long run it will be best for them to have their own space to go to that is their own for privacy and to just relax and be them without the arguing and hassles that can happen in a shared room.
* Age gap of 8 years and a 1 year old is not going to understand about not walking through a curtain to sisters side and respecting her privacy
* Gender difference may not matter now, but in a couple years when your daughter is 11 or 12 it will and she is going to want complete privacy from her little brother with changes she will be going through.
* You need to check your state/local laws. There are laws on this type of thing and age limits on what is appropriate or not for different genders sharing a bedroom as siblings based on age differences. If it is not legal in your state and someone finds out and reports you then you could be in trouble with CPS down your back.
Also, she may say she's fine with it because she feels pushed into doing it and doesn't know how to say she doesn't want to. If you have the space to give each child their own room I would do that because in the long run it will be best for them to have their own space to go to that is their own for privacy and to just relax and be them without the arguing and hassles that can happen in a shared room.
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